八个人分享了他们被收养后的希望和喜悦的故事

综合作者 / 花爷 / 2025-02-27 19:42
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      对于许多被收养的人来说,他们把自己的新家庭视为“第二次机会”。  然而,对于越来越多的人来说,这个梦想可能不

  

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  对于许多被收养的人来说,他们把自己的新家庭视为“第二次机会”。

  然而,对于越来越多的人来说,这个梦想可能不会成为现实,因为在过去的五年中,被收养的儿童数量下降了23%。

  5岁以上的孩子比4岁及以下的孩子多等待17个月,而黑人孩子比所有年轻人的平均等待时间长6个月。

  这就是为什么“你可以收养”组织——由全国各地的地区和自愿收养机构组成的全国性组织——推出了一个强有力的新肖像系列和电影,分享不同世代被收养人的故事。

  时尚和名人摄影师菲利普·辛登用相机捕捉了他们的经历,他自己也是被收养的。

  他的每幅肖像的背景都是参与者与被收养有关的词语——在他们的旅程中,“不完整”或“隐藏”等描述被“希望”和“归属感”所取代。

  虽然从历史上看,收养通常被视为耻辱,很少有信息和支持来帮助人们了解他们的历史或与他们的出生家庭保持联系,但现在被收养者对他们的历史有深刻的了解被认为是至关重要的。

  在这里,一些活动的声音分享了他们的故事,以突出采用的力量和潜力。

  Callum was adopted when he was four-years-old. He always felt like he had two families but that's not a bad thing. It's something he feels proud of. Callum's adoptive parents have always spoken very openly and positively a<em></em>bout his birth family, so it always felt very normal. As a family, they’ve always been open and ho<em></em>nest a<em></em>bout adoption, and he also proudly discusses it with his friends. When he was a teenager, Callum decided he wanted to reach out to his birth mother, and did so with the support of his parents. Three mo<em></em>nths later, they met in person for the first time. Callum’s dad came with him for support. They have since stayed in touch. Recently, his birth mother asked if Callum would walk her down the aisle at her wedding next year. He said yes. (Picture: You Can Adopt)</p>

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  Isabelle was adopted from Sri Lanka in 1983, when she was six-months-old.?She was adopted?by an English couple who brought her to Britain and raised her along with their biological sons in the suburbs of Loughborough. Growing up in the 80s, even though she always knew she was adopted, it was not something that was openly discussed. Because of this, she didn’t grow up with a full sense of her identity and her history. Many years later, she decided to look for her birth mother, and then found her. They spoke on Facetime, with the help of a translator, and it helped give Isabelle answers to some of the questions she had always wanted to know.? (Picture: You Can Adopt)</p>

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  Isabelle's story doesn't stop there! Adoption changed her life, and she decided to follow in her adoptive parents’ footsteps. She was soon able to extend an offer of a nurturing loving home and opportunities for a child to thrive. Isabelle went on to adopt her son, Nathanial, from Uganda. The adoption was finalised in 2011. A few years later, Isabelle also adopted her daughter,?MG, in the UK. After her own experiences, Isabelle is passio<em></em>nate a<em></em>bout creating an open enviro<em></em>nment for her children around the topic of adoption. She wants them to feel as comfortable as possible asking any questions they may have, and is supporting her daughter in maintaining co<em></em>ntact with her birth family. (Picture: You Can Adopt)

  Joy was adopted from Nigeria. Growing up in Lincolnshire, she struggled during her childhood to find her place. She faced vile racism at school and dealt with trauma from her past. While she faced difficulties, Joe says her adoptive parents co<em></em>nstantly supported her through thick and thin. In her 20s, after moving to London, she found comedy and met friends who had also been adopted. They had been through similar experiences and - bolstered by this - she began to untangle her history. Joy is now a comedian in London, and has used humour as a way to explore her adoption experience. She is incredibly passio<em></em>nate a<em></em>bout adoption – and wants to encourage prospective parents to co<em></em>nsider it. (Picture: You Can Adopt)

  Nick, broadcaster and pop culture expert, was adopted in Scotland in the 1970s. He o<em></em>nly found out he was adopted at the age of 14, which drew up many questions a<em></em>bout his history and sense of identity. During the COVID-19 lockdown, he took a DNA test and was able to find out he was half-Italian, half English. This spurred a search to find his birth parents. Through the TV show Long Lost Families, he was able to find his mother, and brother and sister. In a twist of fate, they didn’t live far from wher<em></em>e he recently moved. Nick has since made co<em></em>ntact with them and is starting a relatio<em></em>nship with this new family.   (Picture: You Can Adopt)

   Rico is a football-mad 12-year-old who plays for the U13s at Manchester City Football Club Academy. He was taken into care as a baby and spent years in the foster care system before finding his forever family alo<em></em>ngside his two older sisters. Rico is an everyday boy, with an extraordinary story to tell in his debut book - ‘Strong And Tough’. It's ba<em></em>sed on his story through the character of Charlie. When Charlie’s birth parents were unable to look after him, he and his two sisters were taken into foster care. His book explores how his new family - and football - helped him rediscover his identity and love himself. (Picture: You Can Adopt)

  Luke, 27, was adopted in 1999, when he was three-years-old. He was placed in short term foster care, and adopted alo<em></em>ngside his younger brother, while his three older siblings went to another family. His adoptive parents supported direct co<em></em>ntact and the siblings built a strong bond as a result. Growing up, Luke had a life story book, and memory box which was helpful for him to learn a<em></em>bout his past and wher<em></em>e he came from. He always knew he was adopted, but when he became a teenager, he started asking more questions as he started to work out his identity. Luke now works in the field of social care. He feels proud to be adopted, and says it has shaped who is he today. Luke would tell people thinking a<em></em>bout adoption to go for it – that even though there may be bumps along the way, you could change someone’s life. (Picture: You Can Adopt)

  Samantha’s family is unique - she is from a family which has three generations of adopted people. Her adoptive mother is herself adopted and Samantha has an adopted son, whom she adopted at 48, and who is now 10. Samantha’s adoptive mother was adopted herself back in 1939 and has next to no information on her birth story. The adoption process was very different in those days. Samantha began her own search for her birth mother twenty-five years ago, which was obviously more difficult because of the closed adoption system. Sadly, she discovered too late that her mother had passed away three years previously. This was devastating to her but a silver lining was the discovery of her birth aunt. They met twenty five years ago and have been close ever since. They holiday together as families every year. Later, by chance, Samantha discovered her birth father through the DNA search site 23andme, which opened up a whole new extended family in America. While she never met either parents, she has discovered more a<em></em>bout them, how they met and their interesting lives which helped her learn more a<em></em>bout her own traits and talents. (Picture: You Can Adopt)</p>

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  “你可以收养”活动鼓励潜在的收养者挺身而出,并强调收养孩子可能对他们的生活产生的影响。

  如果你受到上述故事的启发,并想开始你自己的收养故事,请点击这里。

  你有想分享的故事吗?通过电子邮件联系Kirsten.Robertson@metro.co.uk

  请在下面的评论中分享你的观点。

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